What if We Replaced Resolutions with Miracles?

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Republished from an earlier post

Around this time every year, we are inundated with reminders that we failed to meet last year’s resolutions, as well as techniques and tips that promise to make our next set of resolves stick. But when it comes to setting resolutions, I’ve noticed a number of friends who are sitting out this year. And it’s no wonder when you consider that, of the 40% of Americans who make resolutions; only 8% achieve their New Year’s goals. But maybe there’s another approach.

This may sound a little far-fetched, but what if we all decided to ditch the resolution idea altogether and focus instead on opening ourselves up to receiving miracles? It may sound like a crazy notion at first blush, but humor me for a few paragraphs. After all, the odds of a miracle don’t seem a whole lot different for those of us who are haunted by unfulfilled resolutions of New Years’ past.

I was recently struck with the possibility of miracles as a path for change while reading a book authored by intuitive coach and energy healer Cyndi Dale. In a section about avenues for change in our lives, she defines a miracle as any occurrence which is divinely engineered, and that furthers us on our path to purpose or completion.

According to Dale, we actually block our own ability to design a life that works for us when we spend our energy trying to make things happen in a specific way. Instead, she believes, we open tremendous potential for miracles when, after declaring our desire, we surrender the “how” to the universe, then let go and allow things to happen.

This idea is supported by her own experiments with students, who experienced miracles ranging in number and impact.  Replacing resolutions with miracles sounding like a good idea yet?

Being a miracle maker is no small feat. But if you’re up to the task, the following principles, based on Dale’s guidelines, will help with developing a list of desired dreams and wishes:

  1. The wish supports your body, mind, soul, and spirit integration. These are the aspects that, together, comprise a human being. An affliction to one component affects the whole, thereby making the connection between each part extremely important to our health and well-being. In other words, does our desire support our need for wholeness?
  2. The wish will help you to cultivate more love for yourself and others. As you love more, you begin to free yourself from suffering and the energy you send into the world becomes more positive for all. If like attracts like, contributing your own love and harmony into the world attracts exactly that to you.
  3. The wish should not injure your relationship with God or your higher self. I don’t see this in the sense of religious dogma, but rather preserving our faith and trust in the goodness and love of God (as we perceive). My personal belief is God is in all places, things, moments, beings- including me. This is my truth and any desire I have should be consistent with it.

These steps were easy enough. But teeing up miracles doesn’t stop there. Using an adaptation of the Universal Guardian Principles, Dale then enumerates the following series of agreements to make with oneself that serve to clear the path for miracle manifestation:

  • Am I willing to manifest the healing I need in order to have what I desire, and to heal through the manifestation of this desire?
  • Am I willing to change what needs to be changed to allow this desire to come true?
  • Am I willing to let go of my images and ideas about how this desire should manifest, and allow it to happen?
  • Am I willing to hold myself in a state of surrender and openness?
  • Am I willing to have my perception of myself change so I can further love myself?
  • Am I willing to be happy, even before I am graced with this wish?

At this point, you might be thinking this will be harder work than a resolution, and certainly much less comfortable for some. But remember that a miracle is an occurrence that furthers us on our path to purpose or completion. Doesn’t this seem so much more worthy of our efforts than the ritual of setting token goals that are so unimportant that most of us drop them like a hot potato three weeks into January?

I’d much rather find my purpose than pursuing some minuscule goal, like trying to swear off caffeine.  And maybe it’s the case that the miracles we truly need require a bit of work to prime the pump, so to speak. At the very least, completion of this miracle making exercise seems to promise development in self-love and holistic healing. But who knows, the miracle of miracles may just be waiting to walk down the path you clear for it.



Diamond, D. (2013). Just 8% of People Achieve Their New Year’s Resolutions. Here’s How They Do It. Retrieved December 31, 2016, from http://www.forbes.com/sites/dandiamond/2013/01/01/just-8-of-people-achieve-their-new-years-resolutions-heres-how-they-did-it/#8bf38c304c79

Dale, C., & Dale, C. (2009). The complete book of chakra healing: activate the transformative power of your energy centers. Woodbury, MN: Llewellyn Publications.


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Purging with a Pantoum

So many emotions and thoughts are swimming around in our hearts and minds these days, as many of us wonder and worry about the direction of our world.  If you’re like me, the pens have been burning through journal pages like a muscle car burning down the drag strip.  But journaling, as cathartic as it can be, does not always do the job.  Especially when the emotion filling those thoughts want to take on a poetic feel.Journaling

Months ago, I attended a women’s retreat where French Pantoum poetry was incorporated into a series of free writing exercises.  While I loved to write poems as a kid, I cannot say that I am a natural-born poet by any stretch.  Yet the French Pantoum gave me a creative outlet to give a beautiful form to many of my thoughts and feelings. And it is super easy to do!

Here’s what you do:

  1. Do some free-writing about whatever is on your heart.  For my first couple poems, I plucked lines from my journal that spoke to me.
  2. Pick six phrases from your writing that really resonate with you. Don’t give it too much thought.
  3. Using the form below, plug your six phrases into beautiful stanzas of poetry.  There is no rule or limit on the number of stanzas your poem should include.

French Pantoum

Line 2: __________________________________________________________
Line 3: __________________________________________________________
Line 4:___________________________________________________________

Line 5 (repeat of line 2 in stanza 1):__________________________________
Line 6 (new line):__________________________________________________
Line 7 (repeat of line 4 in stanza 1):__________________________________
Line 8 (new line):__________________________________________________

Line 9 (repeat line 6 of the previous stanza):___________________________
Line 10 (repeat line 3 of the first stanza):______________________________
Line 11 (repeat line 8 of the previous stanza):__________________________
Line 12 (repeat line 1 of the first stanza):______________________________

Below I shared my first French Pantoum, written during a time of great reflection in my life.  I’m certainly no expert on writing poetry, but I definitely recommend this form of creative expression. Write your own Pantoum. 


The Crosses We Bear

How different our lives would be without incessant clutching to our baggage, the crosses we bear
The sting from that time when someone else refused to acknowledge a part of you
Visualizing it, this feeling would be a thick, gray, inflexible mass
If only I could read my life story aloud with conviction and in a poetic sort of cadence

The sting from that time when someone else refused to acknowledge a part of you
What made me stronger when I couldn’t live anymore, not for one more day?
If only I could read my life story aloud with conviction and in a poetic sort of cadence
I tried to be helpful, but probably wasn’t very

What made me stronger when I couldn’t live anymore, not for one more day?
Visualizing it, this feeling would be a thick, gray, inflexible mass
I tried to be helpful, but probably wasn’t very
How different our lives would be without incessant clutching to our baggage, the crosses we bear

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The Weight of the Word


Today I decided to take a leave of absence from my personal social media accounts. The vitriol in posts, tweets and memes has many of us feeling raw and, quite frankly, exhausted. It’s amazing how emboldened and compassionless people can become in the throes of virtual conversations, whether computers or texts. Some try to laugh it off because the communication is “impersonal”, but the truth is all words count and no words are empty.

I believe words have tremendous power in all forms; they can harm and they can heal. Of course this extends to all of them, not just those we cast out into the abyss of the internet.  And we know this from reading stories that confirm the power of prayer in healing disease or research that proves the lifelong effects of emotional abuse.  This struck me quite particularly while recently reading about the energetic value of words in a section of Jan Engle-Smith’s book, Through the Rabbit Hole.

Words are Energy: Frequency of Words

Those who incessantly try to raise our own frequency would appreciate when Engle-Smith posits that words are energy and possess a frequency of vibration. If you think about it, words do evoke physical sensation and they can even make you feel nourished or depleted.  We’ve all felt our bodies retreat into a state of resistance in response to low frequency words, sometimes even experiencing real physical pain where no physical contact has occurred. Simply put, energy from the words we are exposed to has an immediate energetic effect on us.

And it doesn’t stop there. Those who practice Reiki and other energy modalities rely on the fact that our intentions drive the energy we use for healing. For all of us who manifest our intention into words, we are giving those intentions form.  Dr. Emoto’s research on the effect of human consciousness on water molecules is a prime example.  Frozen water labeled with the words, “you disgust me” produced much different forms than the beautiful crystals in frozen water labeled with, “truth”.

Dr. Emoto water research
Dr. Emoto’s research links consciousness to molecular structure of water

Words are Actions

I’ve really been thinking on this notion of manifesting intention with words, and the power of it. Engle-Smith illustrates this with a sort of continuum when she writes: Energy follows intention; whatever you add to energy multiplies; thought followed by action (here, words) equals form; what you believe becomes.

You may not be ready to label your water just yet, but it could a fun exercise to ponder the energetic value of our most commonly used words and phrases. For example, the phrase “in love” usually means romantic love and doesn’t necessarily require mutuality. But we can be “in fellowship”, “in unison”, or “in war” with others.  So to me, the image of two people mutually intending to live in the space of love is nothing short of breathtaking.


Affirmations are a great way test whether Engle-Smith’s cycle can bear fruit for you. Of course affirmations are not a tool for changing the thoughts and behavior of others. Rather, they can help us manifest the intention to change our own behavior or to act in a way that will help us reach our own goals.

The philosophy behind affirmations is absolutely worth all of us spending time researching and  practicing.  A piece on affirmations in the Huffington Post  lists a few good examples of affirmations that pack some pretty weighty words of intent:

  1. My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
  2. I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.
  3. My nature is divine. I am a spiritual being.
  4. Though these times are difficult, they are only a short phase in my life.
  5. I acknowledge my own self-worth. My confidence is soaring.

My intent is to use my words more intentionally to help take the edge off the blossoming bitterness of late and also in hopes of creating  a powerfully loving reality. Seeing as how the human body is about 65% water, just consider me a nice, cool glass of Emoto-esque research. Here’s to  raising our glasses to words that raise our frequency!




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